November has started with a bang – quite literally!
As I sit here looking out of my window, not my office window my bedroom window, I am typing this as I am on day 300000000 of my illness. I have this weird covid / flu thing that is going around and quite frankly I am BORED of it!
I have been resting and resting and resting, but it doesn’t seem to be helping so I thought I would get a bit creative get on with my blog.
I want to share something with you.
Our financial position at home took a turn at the end of October, some things you just simply can’t control. A situation was taken from us and we were in a weird place for a moment.
I tell my clients this ALL the time though…..
"Don’t try to control the uncontrollable"
What does this even mean?
Well, here goes.
My own business capacity hit the max and there was simply nothing else I could do extra. I cannot magic any extra days or hours into my working week, I didn’t want to create quick fixes, they stress me out and I honestly don’t want to add any more hours! (Jeez where would I find the time to watch my quizzes and have a coffee in peace on my own then?!)
Then I got ill.
Boom, pressure number 2!
My business partner for She Thrives Collective got ill too.
I couldn’t work for any of my businesses; I had to stop.
I would have previously really struggled with that. Like really struggled.
Thinking…
- Who am I letting down?
- What will they think of me?
- When will I catch up?
I simply be now. That's all I can do.
Q. Do you lean into what is happening or do you take a step back and recalibrate and let what is meant to happen, happen?
Have a think of it like this…
I CAN control….
- Feelings, behaviour, support I choose to take, rest I choose...
I CAN’T control…
- Other people. Full Stop.
When I realised, I simply cannot control other people, what they think, what they want, this is where the magic happens.
Lean into you.
I ask myself these questions regularly:
Q. What do YOU need?
- Who will be able to support you?
- How CAN I let them?
- What WILL I gain?
Here’s a little case study for you:
Client came to me recently asking for support with confidence to really push her business forward.
I was excited, great person, great business, let’s go I thought.
We booked in some hypnotherapy initially and when talking it became clear that the presenting problem was not the problem at all (it rarely is!) we realised that the client was simply listening to other people voices before her own. She was trying to control the uncontrollable and that was taking all of her own confidence away! We did work on the confidence and I got this back "It was interesting having some stuff pointed out to me that I never thought of before" yep, I see what you can't!
Final thought as the rain is hammering on my window now, go back to that question…
What do YOU need?
What inner voice are you listening to and trying to control?
My books are open for January, and I’m excited to see what this brings for you and me! My FREE discovery calls are that, discovering what you need, rather than what you think you do.
Strategy, direction, focus, clarity, who knows, until you allow the uncontrollables to be, then you will see.
Hels x
Oh and by the way, are you lover or hater of fireworks? I would be quite happy if I never saw one again, yeah they look good for a bout 3 mins and then you lose me.
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👋I’m Hels, I know what it takes to build a thriving business, because I’ve done it, growing and selling a £6m company and successfully creating my coaching business.
With my signature “Let’s do this” approach, I blend business strategy with powerful mindset tools and techniques to help people to focus, gain clarity, and thrive without burning out.
I gets under the skin of my clients’ businesses and life to map out practical support, profitable growth that works for both life and business on their terms”
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