Clarity, a funny old word I think, reminds me of Claridge’s in London (Not that that’s a regular haunt of mine!) and when Anthony Hopkins says ‘Clarice’ in the film Silence of the lambs…
When we get Clarity in our lives we can really start to move forward. Some refer to it as a ‘Light bulb moment’ others just finally get it.
For me clarity is super important to enable us to achieve the goals we want to achieve.
How do we get to really understand what we want / need though?
I love this phrase….
‘Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes’
It’s simple yet powerful.
I remember a client saying to me once, I’m ready. This was that lightbulb moment. They were ready to make the change to see the change.
Can you identify and answer these questions honestly?
Where do you want to be?
If I answer this 100% honestly, then it would be on a tropical beach reading a book in peace whilst listening to the waves lapping up in front of me.
If I answer with business in mind then it's the same. Huh, I hear you cry…In order for my business to succeed I need to succeed in myself and for me it’s often not what I have but where I am. My business means I can pretty much work from anywhere, which means that if I want to be in a place of calm and still then that’s what will help my business.
What will your future self look like?
When you think of your future, how far ahead do you look? 1 day, 1 month, 1 year, 10 years?
What about if you looked at yourself now? What does that look like right now? Are you fully present with yourself?
When we are, the future can become whatever you want it to be, it’s a choice, you make it.
Do you believe you can get there?
This can often be a difficult one to answer for many, because it’s a big option you have to make. You may need some inner work done first before you can truly believe this. I have helped so many people with limiting beliefs with simple deep relaxation and hypnotherapy sessions.
SOME of the benefits of hypnosis:
- The effectiveness of hypnosis depends on the individual but as a master hypnosis practitioner, I help people overcome habits that we have allowed to enter our minds that no longer serve us and experience an improved sense of wellbeing.
- Hypnosis basically uses guided relaxation, concentration, and focused attention to achieve a heightened state of awareness. In this state, you focus your attention on specific thoughts, you take what your unconscious mind wants to receive.
- Find out more here.
I remember asking this question to a group of people:
“Can you tell me confidently in a sentence what you do/problem you solve?”
Some looked horrified, some looked excited, some looked confused. Where do you sit?
Gaining clarity around who you are helping, supporting, offering your services to, making a difference to etc will make the answer to the question seem so much more exciting. You’ll be able to really be yourself, have that confident understanding of who you are, what you’re doing and / or where you want to be.
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Do you struggle to get clarity? It’s REALLY common so don’t worry, you’re not alone.
Action will be one of the biggest ‘things’ you have to do to reach your goals/dreams/progression whatever it looks like to you, but in order to have the correct form of action we need to understand what action we’re taking, this is where clarity kicks in!
Ok so here are basic ways to get that real clarity we need:
1 - Create Space
Your brain is incredible and it has to process a lot right?. Free your immediate surroundings from clutter and mess, think what it feels like when you have that space to be free, do it with your working/thinking spaces, this will link into your mind being clear.
2 - What are your MUST haves/do’s?
Might seem like an obvious thing here but more often than not we focus on what we haven’t got rather than what we have. So focus on what is a non negotiable for you? Could be a simple as a hot cup of coffee each morning, a power walk each day or a night out with friends, whatever it is for you, DO them regularly and without pressure.
3 - Do the ONE thing
When you are writing, do that, write.
When you are listening to music, do that, listen.
When you are thinking, do that, think.
Do you really need your phone in your hand, the tv on and music on all at the same time? Maybe you do, maybe it helps, try immersing yourself with the task at hand only and see how it can help.
Here are some of my own lightbulb moments that I’ve had and where I have personally found clarity…
You are unique. Sounds obvious but it took me a while to really see that my DNA is my own, so therefore I am my own person. My dreams, desires. wishes will be different to yours, that’s good. I do NOT need to be like everyone else to get to where I want to be.
Staying in your own lane. Being completely transparent here for a LONG time, I looked at everyone else and decided I wanted to be them. I wanted their life, I wanted their business, I wanted their ideas. I guess it was easier, I could just follow them, copy them and things would be easy. Smack in the face when I realised I had NO desire to be like anyone else, it held me back for more time than needed and more energy wasted in the wrong direction. I see that now. I learnt.
Focusing on YOU. Ok, so this one took me an even longer time! I had been brought up to get on with things, do this, do that, I never once watched my mum have any time for herself. That hit home. Who was I living this life for? Everyone else or me? Finding out about you, what you love to do and what brings you the most smiles, both inside and out, is a gamechanger.
The clarity you need is right there for you, it sometimes gets lost, it sometimes isn’t obvious, you just need to find it again.
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